When You Have A Purpose, You’re Taking Action And Aren’t Afraid Of Failure

Something remarkable happens when you start to think about, and then live your life more purposefully. You start taking action. You start doing things instead of second guessing yourself and procrastinating. You get off the couch and get going on the things you’ve always wanted to do.

Taking action becomes so much easier when you have a clear purpose. You have a goal in mind and you know exactly what the next step is that you need to take. Even more importantly, you are highly motivated to get it done.

Let’s look at weight loss as an example. You can try to lose some weight and get into shape for months and even years with little success. Sure, you eat a little better and you go for a walk every now and then, but because you don’t have an actual purpose, you don’t get far. You also occasionally give in to the urge to snack, get second helping, or indulge in a cookie. There’s no big reason to get serious about losing weight and there’s no deadline.

Now pretend you’re getting married in nine months and you are determined to look great on your big day. You have a dress or suit size in mind and a pretty good idea of how many pounds you have to lose by your wedding day. Suddenly you have a purpose, a goal, and a deadline. That’s exactly what it takes to get serious about losing weight.

You start taking massive action. You clean up your diet, cut out the sugar and processed food. You start working out to tone and reshape your body as you start to drop those pounds. You read up on and learn as much as you can about nutrition and the latest trends in diet and exercise. Best of all the pounds start to drop and you’re looking better and better the closer you get to your non-negotiable deadline.

That’s the power of having a purpose in action. It spurs you on and motivates you to do things and make changes. Having a purpose also keeps you from procrastinating out of a false fear of failure. Does that mean you won’t fail? Of course not. There’s a chance you may not hit your weight loss goal and there a very good chance that you’ll cheat and have a doughnut or the likes at some point on your weight loss journey. That’s not the point and not the type of failure I’m talking about. No matter what because of your purpose you’re going to make some serious progress and even if you stumble, you pick yourself up and get right back to it… because you have an important purpose that’s motivating you. Not trying because you think you may fail is no longer an option and that’s a pretty big deal.

Confidence Hack: Do It Anyway

Yesterday we talked about having bad days and setbacks and how they are normal and part of life. In other words, we all have days when we just don’t want to, or days when we hear that little voice in the back of our head that tells us that we’re wasting our time. On those days, I want you to employ today’s confidence hack which is to do it anyway.

That sounds pretty simple, doesn’t it? You may even be wondering right now what type of advice this is. Stay with me, I promise it will start to make sense, and there’s a little more to it then to telling you to just get over yourself and get stuff done.

There is a lot to be said about taking action and creating momentum. Getting started is often the hardest part, isn’t it? Think back on a day when you really didn’t want to go out for a walk or run in the morning. Instead of staying in bed and sleeping in, you made yourself get up, put on your shoes and by the time you were out the door and starting to move your body, it got easier to keep going. You may even have felt happy that you made yourself do it. At the very least you felt relieved and proud by the time you got back.

This is what I mean about doing it anyway. This concept of getting started and creating momentum works in all areas of your life. It works just as well for exercising as it does for taking are of a big pile of laundry or a dreaded task at work. The key is to get started by doing it anyway.

When you have one of those days where you don’t want to do anything but sleep in or lay on the couch bingeing Netflix, think about what you should be doing today and pick the easiest item on the list. Do that to create some momentum. If you’re procrastinating tackling a big project, break it down into baby steps, or pick one small part of it that’s quick and easy to do. Go do that to … you guessed it… create some momentum.

Hopefully this is enough to get you over that initial hump and turn things around for you. If it isn’t, there are some other things you can try. Make that list of tasks you can check of that we’ve talked about in a previous post. Not only does it feel great to check things off the list, it also forces you to break bigger tasks up into smaller, more manageable, and less intimidating chunks.

Last but not least, try bribing yourself. You can spend the rest of the afternoon bingeing Netflix, if you get the yard cleaned up first. Come up with something fun and meaningful as a treat or bribe for yourself and start getting things done. I promise you’ll feel a big boost in confidence if you can make yourself do it anyway.

Confidence Hack: Write Those Goals Down and Check Them Off

Yesterday we talked a bit about setting goals and why it’s important to set meaningful and specific goals that are measurable. I hope you’ve spent a little time thinking about what some of your own goals may be. That’s because today it’s time to put the theory to practice and use writing down goals and checking them off as a confidence hack.

This isn’t going to be as hard or as complicated as you may think at first glance. Yesterday we talked about some pretty big, long-term goals. While those are great to have, there are also much smaller, daily goals we can use to get a boost in confidence. These are the small goals you want to write down and check off. Sometimes they are part of your bigger goals, sometimes they aren’t.

Think about what you want to get done today. Maybe this includes making a meal plan for the week, finding some time to read a book, or taking an hour for yourself to play a video game. Maybe it’s weeding the garden. Maybe it’s replacing the windshield wiper fluid in your car. It doesn’t matter how large or small, write those goals down on a small notepad that you can carry with you or leave at your desk or kitchen counter. Then, as you accomplish each small goal, check it off. You can put a check mark next to it or cross it out. Try them both and see which one feels better. Try transferring your goals to your Success notebook and reward yourself for completing them with charms from Reward Your Success™.

It’s very satisfying to check items off your goals or to-do list. Each time you check something off, you get a mini boost of confidence that will help motivate you to tackle the next task, and the next one. Mix and match goals or tasks that are very easy to accomplish, and those that take a little longer or require a little more will power on your part.

Play around with how much you put on your list to check off. If you find yourself overwhelmed with too many tasks and goals, limit it to no more than five things. If you find that you can’t possibly make it through your entire list and that not finishing gets you down, make sure you add no more than what you can comfortably finish. If on the other hand having quite a few extra items on that list motivates you to see how much you can check off before bedtime, load up that goals list. Make it work for you and see what system gives you the biggest boost in confidence and courage.

How Goals Can Help You Boost Your Confidence

Let’s talk about goals and how they can help you boost your confidence. Goals help in many areas of our lives.  They help us get more done.  They can help us forward more quickly in life, work, or school. Not only that, they also force us to think about what we want, break it down into actionable items, and set a deadline.

With smart goals like that in place, you’ll be making in measurable progress in no time. That in turn will give you a big boost in confidence. That confidence is all you need to get the courage to tackle your next set of goals.

Let’s look at this process a little closer. The first step is to determine what you want. What is your specific goal going to be? Notice that I said specific. Wanting to lose weight, get in shape, or having a lot of money in the bank are a starting thought, but not a real goal. If you don’t know how much weight you want to lose, you don’t have anything to measure your progress on. If you want to lose 10 pounds, a two pound weight loss is a great first step. If you don’t know how many pounds you want to lose, you won’t know if those two pounds are where you can stop, or if they are a small drop in the bucket.

If you want to get in shape, you need to know what “in shape” looks and feels like for you. Does it mean keeping up with your toddler when you’re running around on the playground? Or does it mean running a marathon next year? They are two very different goals that both fall under “in shape”. Yet the preparation and what it will take to reach each goal will be very different. You can’t begin to measure your success unless you set a real, well-defined goal.

The same holds true for the idea of having money in the bank. That’s all it is, an idea. It’s not a bad starting point to set a goal, but it’s not an actual goal. Do you want a couple of hundred dollars in the bank after paying off all your outstanding consumer debt, do you want to save up $10,000 for a down payment on a house, or do you want to have six months’ worth of living expenses in savings as a financial safety net? Those are all very different goals that all fall under the idea of “money in the bank”. They may even amount to a fairly similar dollar amount, but the motivation behind them and the use for that money is different.

That’s another important part of setting a goal that will help you boost your confidence.

Don’t throw an arbitrary number out there, whether it's money in the bank, pounds lost, or how fast you can run a mile. Make it mean something. It’s much easier to stick to the goal of saving $10,000 for a down payment on a house.

You’ll be able to stick to eating beans and rice twice a week and cutting back the cable package if you know it’s for realizing your dream of home ownership. Not only that, but as you get a step closer to that goal (by depositing and extra $1,000 when you get your tax refund, or a bonus at work), you’ll be proud of what you’re doing.

Each step that gets you closer to your goal has real meaning and it increases your self-confidence.